How Do You Spell Relief?

You simply….ask.

It’s that easy. It really is. You simply ask the question you need to ask, or you ask for help, or for guidenance to find that help.


I’ve been worrying about my thesis. I’ve been worrying about a lot of things, paying for school, finishing the reading for intersession, paying for trips, what to do with my house if and when I have to move for my Ph.D program…but more urgently in the time line, I’ve been worrying about my thesis.

After a consult with my go-to sounding board J.C., I sent off some quick emails to the two professors who have impacted and improved my student life this past two semesters. I just laid it all on the table. My questions. My concerns. My feelings of WTF and my needing help to navigate all of that.

Then I went away and celebrated my best good friend, Delbert on her birthday AND her engagement. We had cold beverages and hot mexican food and cakegloriouscake.

All was well in the world.

Fast forward to another night tossing and turning and waking up about 4am, then trying to find more sleep about 6am, bla bla bla uncomfortable bla bla bla yawn, and I have a response!!!

I have not only a response, but an acceptance of my request to work with me on my thesis as well as suggestions for my topic! LORD the relief!

Why is it so difficult to simply ask?

Do we think we’re above it? Or that it makes us weak and stupid looking?

Why do we forget that we are here, on this journey, connected to each other, with the sole purpose of loving and helping?

I am never happier than when I can help someone. It’s one of the reasons I love doing what I do for a living.

I wonder then, why that doesn’t automatically translate to others who are offering to help me?

I don’t know.

I do know that the sense of relief and excitement for the potential work ahead, and the certainty that I have put myself in the hands of someone who is credible and interested and who has MY best interests at heart…well that relief is something I wish I’d had weeks ago.

Simply ask.

go figure.


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